How Do I Know If Mom or Dad Needs Care?
According to data from the 2018 National Health Interview Survey, approximately 7% of adults 65 and older need help with personal care from other people. However, many seniors either refuse outside help or do not recognize they need it, making it challenging for family members to determine when intervention is necessary.
Seven Signs Your Aging Parent May Need Care
1. A Decline in Personal Hygiene
If your parent stops bathing regularly or neglects grooming tasks, this may indicate difficulty with physical activities like getting in and out of the shower. Visit two to three times weekly to assist with bathing and grooming. A home care aide may be necessary if the situation does not improve.
2. They Are Not Meeting with Friends
Withdrawal from social activities and decreased communication can signal underlying issues. If your parent has stopped calling as frequently and you are making all the effort to stay in touch, they may be isolating themselves. Consider whether hearing loss, dementia, or depression might be contributing factors. Consult a doctor about next steps.
3. They Are Giving a Ton of Money to “Charities”
Financial exploitation is common among seniors. Whether from family members, friends, caregivers, or strangers, financial abuse can occur subtly. Contact local police, the Eldercare Locator program, or an elder law attorney if you suspect your parent is being exploited.
4. They Are Having Trouble Behind the Wheel
Slowing reflexes, chronic conditions like cataracts or arthritis, and cognitive decline can impair driving ability. Ask neighbors to report dangerous driving behavior. Request that your parent undergo a driving evaluation through the Department of Motor Vehicles or an occupational therapist.
5. They Have Lost a Ton of Weight
Significant weight loss may indicate inability to prepare meals, poorly fitting dentures, or underlying conditions like Alzheimer’s or depression. Help arrange meal delivery services like Meals on Wheels, hire an in-home aide for cooking, or ensure dental care is updated. If your parent has dementia and forgets to eat or cannot safely use appliances, more supervised care may be necessary.
6. They Are Having Difficulty Taking or Remembering to Take Their Medications
Organize medications in a pill box, monitor administration during home visits, or arrange for a home health aide to assist. If supervision becomes necessary, your parent may need more comprehensive care arrangements.
7. They Have Had a Fall While Alone
Falls represent serious concerns for seniors living independently. Medical alert devices like Life Alert and GPS trackers enable emergency contact. Frequent falls or nighttime wandering indicate potential need for round-the-clock supervision.
Key Takeaway
Recognizing the signs that a parent needs care is the first step toward ensuring their safety and well-being. If you notice any of these warning signs, consult with an elder law attorney and your parent’s healthcare providers to explore the best care options for your family.
